White Friends: Don’t Be Afraid Of The Hashtag

White Friends: Don't Be Afraid Of The Hashtag

This is why “Black Lives Matter” I know your hearts. I know that you feel like you don’t know what to say. I know you love your black neighbors, your co-workers, your friends. I know you pray for them. I know you just wish everyone would get along, but this is what you’re not getting […]

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The Thing About Giants

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I wasn’t always sure I wanted to be a mom, but he was always sure he wanted to be a dad. He went to every appointment with me when we got pregnant. (Yes, “we”. It was a joint venture.) He was the first to hold her. The first to change her diaper. The first to […]

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My Daughter IS My Best Friend

My Daughter IS My best Friend By Liza Dora

“Don’t be friends with your kids.” “Don’t be a friend. Be a parent.” “I’m not your friend, I’m your mom.”   Did you nod? Sure. Me, too. Before I had a kid. Before I spent close to every waking minute willing another human to survive and duct taping cushions to everything in our house. Before […]

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Tell Her

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I put her in her bed early tonight, because I’m tired and potty training is hard. I got in the bath and scrolling through Facebook, I read a post about a little boy whose eyes began to cross and his mothers lost him after a year. Again I thanked God that cancer happened to me […]

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Let Them Be Little

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It’s starting to happen more often, now. A judgment made that she’s too old to be in diapers. The expectation that she has any concept of age or enough motor control to hold up two specific fingers on command from a stranger. I had an uncle who had to bring his birth certificate to every […]

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Praying for You

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My husband routinely prays before each meal. I am usually knee deep in spaghetti by the time I take notice and join in. Our daughter will clasp her hands and watch him as he prays. When he says “Amen”, she shouts it and joins me in the sauce-y depths. I have long journeyed in my […]

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Doing A 21 Day Sugar Detox: Days 14-21

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Or, “Why Eating Salad Makes You Better Than Everyone Else.” If you missed the first three posts they are here, here, and here. Day 14: Doesn’t thinking “half-way thru” pretty much always make you want to quit? Also, I can no longer do math. Day 15: Starting to suspect that I am, in fact, evolving […]

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Tomorrow

Tomorrow by Liza Dora

I take pride in being a citizen of the world. I start my morning with a slew of online publications and I update constantly throughout the day. I marvel at working conditions in Holland and worry over viruses in South America. The world is a big, beautiful place. I dream about showing my daughter the […]

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21 Day Sugar Detox: Days 6-13

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You can catch Part 1 here and part 2 here, if you have enough non-sugar energy to actually move. Day 6: As long as I don’t look at Pinterest, TV, or my Starbucks app–I’m invincible. Day 7: I’m not hungry. At all. Perhaps I’ve begun photosynthesis. Day 8: Can no longer sleep. Perhaps the part […]

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On Buckets and Lists

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In May of 2012, I quit my job. I was a teacher and a coach at a great school. I was making around $56K a year and living comfortably in a nice apartment, without a car payment, and a boyfriend who I only saw three times a year. Even now, looking back, there are days […]

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21 Day Sugar Detox: Days 2-5

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You can start from Day 1 here. I did. Day 2: I wasn’t hungry. At all. I think my gastrointestinal system is sad. Day 3: I drove most of the day so I could film something for “Listen to Your Mother” on SA Live, a variety show on KSAT12. I stopped and got a Topo […]

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Doing a 21 Day Sugar Detox: Day 1

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If you are here because you “googled” 21 Day Sugar Detox, I’d like to go ahead and apologize. I will likely fail horribly at this. I love sugar and sugar loves me. It is perhaps my most stable relationship. But the stars have aligned, and I’m going to go 21 days without it. The optimum […]

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Girls Are Magic

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You were watching a cartoon yesterday, some innocuous thing, and a character flicked her wand. Sparks shot from the end and she changed the world around her. I was folding clothes when you asked what it was. “Magic,” I said and you inched closer to the TV. “Girls are magic,” you whispered and I caught my breath. […]

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Valentine’s Day

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Last year on Feb 14th I got a package in the mail. It was a dozen chocolate covered strawberries. They were beautiful and sweet and they weren’t from my husband. When I was 21 and in college I hardly dated. I’m a terrible dater. I’m an asshole when I’m nervous and the only times I’ve […]

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